I was listening to a podcast recently on ways to advance the gospel at holiday dinner gatherings. I thought I would share some of these ideas with you as tools we can use in our own discipleship. Of course, these thoughts are not just for holiday dinner gatherings, but can and should be used anytime to evangelize those family members or friends that do not have belief in Jesus.
These are not ground breaking evangelistic ideas. As a matter of fact, I am comfortable stating this ministry did not have any amazing breakthroughs on how to evangelize. They are simply highlighting (and reminding) how we should engage conversations as Christians. I have attempted to summarize an hour-long podcast in the list forthcoming. If you are interested in listening to the complete podcast, this is the link: https://crossexamined.org/top-ten-ways-to-advance-the-gospel-at-holiday-dinners-2024-edition/
First, it should be noted, it is not our ultimate objective to bring someone to the foot of the cross in one conversation. Would that be great? Yes! But it is not realistic. We may be the first step to someone accepting Jesus; we may be the final step. However, we must do our part as disciples for Jesus. As the apostle Paul wrote to the church in Corinth, “So, then, neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but only God who gives the growth” (1 Corinthians 3:7 [CSB]).
With that noted, here is the list:
Pray. If you have the opportunity to pray aloud at a gathering, take it. Pray for others, calling them specifically by name (assuming there aren’t too many people present to list). Be thankful for these people. Be thankful for the meal (assuming you are having a meal). Add the gospel to the prayer. Thank Jesus for being our substitute and taking the penalty due to us upon Himself.
Serve. GET UP and serve others. This is a great way to show your love for others. Jesus said He did not come to be served, but to serve (Matthew 20:28, Mark 10:45). He ultimately served by giving His life as a ransom for many.
Ask Questions. Engage in conversation. Ask questions about their lives. “How have you been doing?” “How is work/school going?” Whatever the questions may be, take a sincere interest in their life.
Listen. When you ask questions: listen! Do not over-talk or overtake the conversation. Let them talk and listen intently to what they are telling you. Again, be genuinely interested in what they are telling you. You will learn a lot more about them by listening than talking. You will also show more sincerity by listening.
Tactics. If a conversation happens to turn to questioning or rejecting Christianity, ask tactical questions. This must be done with grace. Examples are “What do you mean by that statement?” “Why do you think/feel that way?" “How did you come to that conclusion?” “Have you considered?”
Most people cannot answer these questions with much substance because they have been fed by a secular society without digging into the claims themselves. You may not have specific answers to their questions or statements, and that’s ok if you don’t at this time. You can always follow up with them (see below). The point is to get them thinking about their position.
Agree and affirm. I would venture to say most, if not all, people like to be right. If someone presents something that is true and accurate, let them know you agree. This should not be a one-sided or hostile conversation. This should be a dialogue, not a monologue.
Make it easier. Show what makes the walk with Jesus a little easier. This is in terms of gaining knowledge. There are lots of resources available to turn to for answers outside of the Scriptures. Of course, the Holy Bible is the number one authority. If any source contradicts the Scriptures, it should not be used to advance the gospel.
Follow up. This does two things. First, it shows genuine interest in the conversation you had and interest in the person. Second, you may come across additional information that may be useful to answering any questions or objections that may have come up during the conversation.
I am hopeful these ideas will help you advance the gospel in future conversations.